QUESTION:Should Parents Discipline Their Kids?





By Osayuware Emokaro


Some people might say, “No. I would never smack my child for any reason.” Are they right? No, they aren’t! It is written in the Bible that, “Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.”

So, if it is in the Bible, why don’t we live by it? Some people might also say, “I don’t want to make my children hate me.” But withholding discipline from them doesn’t help.

In the classic book ‘Anne of Avonlea’, Anne Shirley was having a bad day. She was just, for an unknown reason, in a bad mood. Before she became a teacher, she promised never to cane any of her students and to only win their affection by being gentle with them, just like her teacher was with her.

But that day seemed to be exceptional. A very mischievous boy, Anthony Pye, disobeyed her. Anne impulsively gave him a stroke of the cane. He was quiet all through the day. Anne regretted what she did. But the next day, as Anne was walking to school, she saw Anthony. As she looked at him, he offered to carry her things. So, Anne had won Anthony’s respect. And he was the only one that didn’t like her before she caned him. Her caning him corrected a bad behaviour in him and he became more obedient and respectful.

By not correcting or punishing your children for bad behaviour, you make them feel free with you; they begin to treat you like their mates. The bad behaviour will be part of them till they grow up. They will learn not to do that thing the hard way and you wouldn’t like to see your child in pain.
So, even the slightest of punishment will help them to remember never to do that thing again.

There are several scriptures that instruct us on how a child should be raised and I believe the Bible is a great guide for parenting. Below are some of the scriptures –

Proverbs 13:24
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.

Proverbs 19:18
Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be party to his death.

Proverbs 22:15
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.

Proverbs 29:17
Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will bring delight to your soul.

So, do you still think that discipline isn’t good?